It may be your parents, your partner, your family, your pets, your friends or even God. If you’re lucky enough, you’ll find someone who loves you first. And if you’re really blessed, you’ll be surrounded by them. Some might say, be with someone who loves you more. But I hope you find someone who loves you first.
And I’m not talking about the infatuations and high school crushes. I’m referring to love. I’d try to explain what love is, but I think it differs for everyone of us. And yet as cliché as it sounds, we’ll know when we experience it. It’s difficult to mistake that profound yet simple emotion for anything else, really.
To be loved first is euphoric. We feel cherished. We may have done nothing to deserve it and perhaps that’s what makes it even more valuable. We will feel accepted as we are. We are validated for our worth regardless of whether we need it or not. And just like innocent children, that extra sprinkle on our ice-cream adds that gleeful spring to our steps.
To be loved first is empowering. It makes us brave, knowing that there is someone supporting us. It liberates us because to some degree (and I do say this with much caution), that love is unconditional. It was given and professed without expecting us to reciprocate. It was given without us having to earn it.
It’s the people who love us first
That we will exploit, as if we wish to test the depth of their affections.
That we will take for granted, as if they could only love us and no one else.
That we will always return to because therein lies solace.
I hope you’ll find people who love you first, who courageously bare their heart for you with no strings attached. I hope you’ll experience love that is enduring, accepting and forgiving in whatever form it comes in.
And I hope one day, you’ll love first too.